Why Being Frigid Gets You Nowhere

Thursday, November 17, 2011 Andrea Lo 0 Comments

Frigid |ˈfrijid| adjective

(Esp. of a woman) Unable or unwilling to be sexually aroused and responsive.
- The Oxford Dictionary

A term usually used to describe females who have no desire for sex; persistently averse to sexual intercourse.
- Urban Dictionary

Back in the day, it was standard procedure for a man to take a woman out on dinner dates, hold the door open for her, give her a kiss good night by her doorstep, and not even dream about getting anywhere near her panties until much later. People didn't have sex until they were married, and it wasn't unusual to have had only one partner their entire lives.

As with all things, the attitude towards sex and relationships change and evolve. These days, whilst some people seem to have the rather romantic notion that one should only consummate one's relationship with another after they become an 'official' item, the general consensus on relationships is that being frigid significantly minimises your chances of being with someone.

Let me just throw this out there: I'm glad to live in this day and age. First of all, if I was a guy, why the hell would I waste time wooing a girl who refuses to have sex until things get serious, when I could be getting laid elsewhere? We live in 2011; whether you like it or not, the foundations of a healthy relationship involve sex, and being a so-called 'good girl' just doesn't fly anymore. If you don't put out, you're pretty much fucked [pun intended.]

I'm not suggesting that girls act easy and go around humping everything that moves. But is it sensible to commit yourself to a relationship before knowing what an essential part of it would entail?

And despite everything mentioned above, there is still a fine line between being open to 'taking cars out on test drives', and acting like a slut. The way I see it: while one should retain from acting frigid, you can maintain a level of dignity and an air of mystery. Check out this Askmen.com article on sex on the first date.