'Women Blame Women For Things That Have Nothing To Do With Them'

Thursday, October 08, 2015 Andrea Lo 0 Comments

Extracts from Nicki Minaj's recent interview with the New York Times Magazine, in which she read Miley Cyrus for filth, are all over social media.

Most publications picking up on the interview highlighted the fact that Minaj had addressed her beef with Cyrus, which came to a head at the VMAs.

Context in case you've forgotten: Basically, Nicki Minaj wasn't cool with the fact that Miley Cyrus threw shade at her in an interview.

The whole thing originally stemmed from beef between Nicki Minaj and Taylor Swift that kicked off on Twitter and since it's Hollywood, Miley Cyrus became involved in the mud-slinging.

She's just being Miley

It's kind of complex. If you care enough to know the back story, this and this might help.

While accepting an award at the VMAs, Minaj did this (0:09 onwards).

There was something else she said in the NYT Mag interview though, that caught my attention.

'Women blame women for things that have nothing to do with them. I really want to know why — as a matter of fact, I don’t. Can we move on, do you have anything else to ask? To put down a woman for something that men do, as if they’re children and I’m responsible, has nothing to do with you asking stupid questions, because you know that’s not just a stupid question. That’s a premeditated thing you just did.'

It appeared that reporter had really pissed Minaj off by asking her if there is a part of her that 'thrived off drama'. She kicked the reporter out.

I think it's funny that Miley thinks she can compete with Nicki can kind of understand why she would be pissed off, because the reporter said this right after asking Minaj her thoughts on the beef between rappers Meek Mill and Drake  which of course, is drama that she has nothing to do with.

I also want to add that I have every sympathy for the reporter. It is not nice being yelled at by a celebrity when you interview them, see: here.

But back to what I was saying. Women blame women for things that have nothing to do with them. How incredibly accurate this observation is.

So often, I have been in situations where women put each other down, instead of raise each other up.

I, for one, can't remember the number of times I have wrongly directed my anger at another woman.This isn't supposed to be one of those blog posts, I swear.

One time, in conversation with a guy I was dating, the topic of an ex-boyfriend came up. He had slept with a friend of mine, who I had already put my deposit down to live with.
'Ouch,' guy said. 'Who did you drop first?'
'What do you mean?'
'Did you drop your ex first, or your girlfriend?'

I found the question quite interesting. I did drop the girlfriend first before eventually dropping the ex-boyfriend. My first instinct, when I found out, was to tell her how much of a whore she was and how she needed the stay the fuck away from my man. Despite this, ultimately, I would say the ex-boyfriend was the one who should have gotten the boot first.
My beef extended to women making their own life choices that had nothing to do with me. The woman who started dating her best friend's ex; the women who I felt threatened by, simply because of the fact that I was too insecure to realise I didn't have to be a bitch to other women just to feel better about myself.

It was a never-ending circle of constant beef with other women. In reality, often the men at the heart of it all were to blame.

One day, an editor of mine called me out on my behaviour and told me to start learning how to direct my anger at the right people.

Nicki Minaj might not have meant exactly what I'm trying to say here, but I resonate with what she's saying nonetheless.